You never know where and when you will find love. I remember a number of years ago it seemed like all my friends were getting married, and I was just watching it all happen.
I remember when a group of three (2 girls and 1 guy) came to stay in our shelter.
I remember them sitting at a round table together, and since they were new I would try to make them feel comfortable by saying a joke or two. One of the girls was very giggly, I wondered if she was high Lol. We moved the two girls into our women’s residence, and the guy stayed in shelter until there was room for him at our men’s residence. One girl started to get involved with our youth mission that we had at the time, and told her friend “We have to leave before I become a Christian again”. She could feel God’s call on her life, and while she was participating in our youth mission activities she gave her heart back to God.
She volunteered a lot serving coffee, and helping at our banquet when she was able. She got a job at Subway and worked there for many years. We became good friends, everyone would ask if we were going out, we would always say no and would often get frustrated.
We were sitting on swings at a school one calm evening, when we both started talking about relationship issues. I remember leaving that conversation thinking that I wanted to leave the other relationships and spend my life with her. She was the person that after night I knew I could not live without her.
I spoke to my friend who at the time was also one of the pastors of the shelter, and told him that I want to ask her to marry me. He thought I should do it at a community event which was in two weeks, which made me a little anxious, but I was game. I went and bought an engagement ring with the only $200 i had and decided I would ask her to marry me two weekends later, in front of about 100+ people. I always hated the ring i bought her, but after we got married she wasn’t able to wear it for some reason, so I did what anyone else would do. I bought a Tattoo kit and tattooed her a ring.
There is something I should clarify we were not in a relationship, we were not even discussing feelings for each other. The night we were sitting on the swings I felt that God told me that she is my wife. So with this feeling and the knowledge that she would probably say yes, I went ahead with my plans. A week later we did start “going out”, but I never said anything about getting married or even ask her what she would think about that. I just knew she would say yes.
So it came time for me to propose, and I was a little nervous. There was over 100 people in the room, and only 2 or 3 knew what my plan was. We were acting in a skit, and I worked in the proposal, a lot of people thought it was part of the skit. She said yes, and we decided to get married four months later. I do not suggest fast-moving relationships like this to people, but for us it worked.
We have now been married 7 years. God is so good and amazing.
I have wanted to write this story for a long time, but didn’t feel it was the right time until now. Yesterday in lue of Valentines day I posted “I found love in a homeless shelter”, and was blessed by the responses that i got on the post. There have been a lot of people meet, get married, and have stuck it out over the years at the shelter. To tell you the truth I have never thought much about how many couples have chosen to spend the rest of their lives together, after meeting at the shelter.
I love telling people that my wife and I met in a homeless shelter, she was a resident and I am the manager, if she is around she doesn’t like me telling this story Lol.
I found love in a homeless shelter.